One of the worst feelings in life is when you discover that your partner has cheated on you. If you were the one who cheated, be prepared to work hard if you want to fix your relationship. It will probably take a lot of time to gain your partner’s trust again, but it is worth it. Here are 10 ways to fix your relationship after cheating:
Show them you are sorry
It is not enough to say that you are sorry and hope that your partner will forget everything. Action speaks louder than words. You have to show them your remorse, show that you are really sorry and that you are willing to work hard in order to repair your relationship.
Do not make excuses
Excuses are the last thing your partner wants to hear. Behave as an adult and take responsibility for your actions. Yes, you may have been going through a difficult period as a couple, but that is still not good reason for cheating. Deep down you know that you are guilty, so don’t try to justify your actions.
Give your partner enough time
Your partner is going through very difficult period. He or she is hurt, angry, or desperate. Or all of it, and it is completely normal. You can not expect that everything will be back to normal, all of a sudden. They need time to process their emotions and to cool off. Everyone is doing that in a different way: if they want to scream, let them scream, if they want to cry, let them cry, because that may be their way of healing.
Don’t ignore the problem
You shouldn’t pretend that nothing happened. That attitude could hurt your partner even more. If they want to talk about it and try to find a solution, you have to participate. Don’t behave as if their feelings were only their problem, because you are also part of it.
Cut the other person from your life
If you really want this relationship to go on, you have to stop communicating with the other person, the person that you cheated your partner with. Delete their number, unfollow him or her on social media and try to avoid them at any cost. That is only way to gain your partner’s trust after cheating.
Be completely honest with your partner
From now on, there are no more secrets. If you want to regain their trust, you have to be completely honest and open about everything. There shouldn’t be any difficult topics or prohibited questions. You don’t want to give them additional reasons for suspicion.
Work on your communication
Effective communication is the key to healthy relationship and avoiding problems. It seems that with time people forget to communicate with each other. You should learn to listen to your partner and their needs. Actually, some couples claim that situations like this helped them to improve their communication.
Seek professional help
Sometimes, it might be difficult to overcome this kind of problem alone. The best solution might be to seek a professional help, such as couples therapy. They can help you understand each other better and they can give you valuable tips that can help repair your relationship and trust. Especially if your partner was the one who suggested you should visit a therapist. Don’t try to avoid that. Instead, you should see that as a great opportunity to work on your relationship.
Show your partner that you appreciate them
When the first and most difficult period has passed, it is time to build your relationship all over again. You should start with small acts of kindness, such as making a dinner, buying their favorite chocolate or organizing an interesting date night. Details like this can help them feel better and they can significantly improve your relationship. Show your partner how important they are to you.
Some studies claim that it takes at least one year to regain your partner’s trust after cheating. It is a long process and it requires a lot of time and patience, from both sides.
The most important thing is to be completely honest and show that you are willing to change some things. With time, your partner will realise that your intentions are sincere and situation will improve.